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Scandalizing Motherhood: Why are we so ashamed of breastfeeding?

Scandalizing Motherhood: Why are we so ashamed of breastfeeding?

Scandalizing Motherhood is a new series on the Connect and Grow in ECE Blog that explores “taboo” topics about motherhood and early care.

In this article we ask: Why do we have such strong reactions to nursing a young child? More pressingly, why would a deeply complex but natural process that saves human lives make us feel shame, disgust, and/or discomfort? Because of the modern sexualization of breasts? It surely can’t be that simple.

Let’s shine some much-needed light on it as we unpack.

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Valuing Intuition in Early Care

Valuing Intuition in Early Care

…whether we capture and communicate them well or not, these little flashes of magic, where we teach a young child to regain control of their breath and really choose with consideration for others what their next interaction with the world will be, these pieces of the experience cannot continue to slip through the cracks in our current measurements and definitions of quality. Why? Because individuals providing direct care to young children do not have the choice to exclude these ever-emerging and ever-subjective aspects of humanity from their consideration. They must face them head on, with minimal processing time, every single day.

There is a particularly important piece of our humanity that we tend to overlook and thus undervalue in ECE and beyond. I specifically bring it forward today because despite the fact that we ignore it, we expect to see it intact in both children and their caregivers. Though seemingly mystical, it is quite straightforward: intuition.

In this psychological phenomenon–where the lines between thinking and feeling are blurred–our inner world inexplicably tells us something about our outer world. While this shapeshifter might come in the form of an epiphany, a reassurance, a knowing, or a warning, it is a part of our humanity, and thus a part of our children’s experience in this world. As such, it deserves our care, consideration, and valuation.

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Intentionally Incorporating Rest

Intentionally Incorporating Rest

It is incredibly important to expose children to a variety of developmentally appropriate experiences in their earliest years. We want them to interact with others, participate in events, try new activities and hobbies, have a variety of sensory experiences, see the world, and be able to encode what people now like to call “core memories.”

…Though this may be a radical suggestion to some, I would like to add something important to that list of early experiences: rest.

Now, when I say rest, I don’t mean a longer-than-usual nap or even “resting” through a jam-packed vacation full of novel experiences. I mean sitting around doing absolutely “nothing” and letting that be enough.

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